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i; {7 e: y" q$ }0 K( Xmso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma;mso-bidi-font-family: Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">孝，如今还在于与父母交心、沟通，体谅父母的难处，分担父母的责任。; ?- F! r8 W5 U4 h0 l- J& p+ V mso-font-kerning:0pt">——+ L$ q+ I9 o+ A: G _3 e. E font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; 5 ]; Z4 k2 E, ?mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">对，这是从情感上关心父母，是尽孝的重要内容。生，事之以礼。死，葬之以礼，祭之以礼。( b$ K$ t8 j% X4 e1 n mso-font-kerning:0pt">——2 `! T; D; f8 F+ k4 z5 _8 K font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">对父母的孝道，是义。如何尽孝，是礼。如何行礼，就是生而不违，去世行丧礼，祭祀行祭礼。《孝经》说：$ E0 l+ W0 a5 Y# {1 u9 X+ J1 ymso-font-kerning:0pt">“! T: G" D5 l2 a) Wfont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">礼者，敬而已矣。故敬其父，则子悦；敬其兄，则弟悦；敬其君，则臣悦；敬一人，而千万人悦。所敬者寡，而悦者众，此之谓要道也。; ?- z7 n/ k- n2 j. Ymso-font-kerning:0pt">”2 G( v0 ]5 C0 _$ h; Y$ {# Vfont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; $ j/ a2 C: c; w5 N gmso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">礼的内在依据是孝悌，而外在表现，就是一个% Q0 @/ A( P P' Omso-font-kerning:0pt">“, w: T4 _: v: Y- U$ m font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">敬8 F7 r0 n. y/ \# A1 ~; kmso-font-kerning:0pt">”, ~0 Q( s. F; N- ?- G( H6 j" _ font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">字。所以，如能尊敬他的父亲，那么其儿子就会喜悦；如能尊敬他的兄长，那么其弟弟就会喜悦；如能尊敬他的国君，那么其臣下就会喜悦。尊敬的是一个人，却能使千万人喜悦。所敬者虽然只是少数，而喜悦的人却有千千万万，这就是为什么把推行孝悌之道和礼乐教化称为& M, H# ~9 `7 A% u2 p) _6 F1 `1 M5 _1 @ mso-font-kerning:0pt">“" k& d% P8 e$ w/ W( c e2 W font-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">要道2 Y$ G- M: x' }: e- X& d% z2 M& Q mso-font-kerning:0pt">”% n" w! b X/ z' Q, [2 bfont-family:宋体;mso-ascii-font-family:Tahoma;mso-hansi-font-family:Tahoma; mso-bidi-font-family:Tahoma;color:black;mso-font-kerning:0pt">的意义所在啊。5 |/ O6 U5 t# M6 u2 j1 X mso-font-kerning:0pt">

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现在用法律手段规定子女要常回家看看，但是由于时间、金钱等各方面的原因，又有多少人是想回而不能回的呢，这个道德层面的问题上升到法律层面到底有什么意义，始终不大明白

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我这里显示也是一堆乱码，怎么回事

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贾老师讲的不错，学习了，谢谢

我这里显示的是一堆乱码！！

不错，学习了，佩服佩服